Is it practical to remain unmarried to avoid pregnancy? Although there is no doubt that this is the most effective birth control method, not everyone can do it. This is due to the fact that normal sexual desires are strong and can be difficult to control.
Those who succeed in becoming unmarried usually do this by suppressing their sexual attraction through time-consuming activities. They may become obsessed with a particular hobby or distract from hard work, meditation, exercise, diet or prayer. However, this trick does not always work, given the wide range of sexual feelings that people have.
Celibacy entails a lot of self-control and decisiveness - something the majority of couples, especially the husband, cannot cope with. One study of contraceptives used by married women in urban poor communities found that those who relied on natural methods such as care and the calendar method were often forced to have sex on “unsafe” days by their drunken husbands. This makes it extremely unacceptable that the same couples practice celibacy.
Even among the clergy, complete celibacy does not exist. This was proven in a historical study by Margaret H. Halstead and Dr. Lauro S. Halstead of Beylor College of Medicine in Houston, Texas. The results of their research, published in the Journal of Sex andital Therapy, can shock you.
After interviewing former practitioners and nuns, two researchers found that most sex is exactly the same as everyone else. Before being appointed, the most common sexual activity was masturbation (47 percent), followed by sexual intercourse and homosexuality (like 11 percent). Oral sex is practiced at 9 percent.
While in orders, masturbation rose to 57 percent. Similarly, homosexuality (21 percent) and sexual intercourse (15 percent). After being fired, these sexual activities increased further with masturbation by 85 percent, intercourse by 82 percent, and oral sex by 75 percent.
“The percentages refer to those who answered. In many cases, a person engaged in more than one activity. Until then, the numbers are not meant to add 100 percent, ”said Albert B. Gerber in the Sex Lists Book.
Reporters added that they were more sexually satisfied during the orders than after refusing their sacred vow of celibacy. The most common causes of reduced satisfaction were the lack of partners, followed by religious and / or moral reasons, feelings of reluctance and problems of communication.
In the same study, it was said that celibacy was practiced by 46% of respondents before they were appointed. This figure dropped to 32 percent, while in orders, and finally dropped to 10 percent, because respondents left the ministry. These numbers clearly show how difficult it is to become unmarried. (Next: the effects of celibacy.)
