When my eldest son was about four, he went into the pharmacy and drank about half a bottle of antidiarrheal medicine. I called poison control, which told me that this is not a problem. I explained the dangers of the study of medicine to my son and refused this question. After a couple of days, he entered the office again and this time drank about a quarter of a bottle of baby aspirin. So for the second time in a week, I called poison control, fearing for my child (and fearing that I would have problems). Again I was told that it does not matter. Freed, I asked him why he did it. His answer was medicine, and he did well.
Sometimes in our life there are people who are very similar to medicine. We feel that they are good for us and good to be around. We love them, and they love us. However, there is a strong negative side for them that hurts our spirit. Often we are aware of this fact, and, surprisingly, often we do not know. We are so lost in the sense of belonging and intentional love that we grew up not to notice this negativity. But every day this negative pushes us away. What are we doing?
People are those who they are based on their life experiences, as well as on internal and external expectations. When we associate with them, we also join in these life experiences. If we were satisfied with previous negative actions, the natural assumption is that we are satisfied with the status quo. And yet, when we discover joy, we begin to understand that this close connection with negativity slowly steals our joy.
What should we do? There are two approaches to review. First, we could express our joy in our actions and words. Here we refuse to accept anything other than joy and a positive life. In this example, we can help lead them to a positive future and a strong friendship. Of course, we still have to live in this example. If not, the change will benefit us.
The second choice is more difficult. If we honestly discover joy, and our positive examples do not matter, we often have little choice but to move on. I do not advocate this as the first attempt. Sometimes, however, this is the only course we must take if we want to maintain a positive and joyful life. Just make sure all prospectuses are reviewed first. Keep in mind to be the best person you can be by example and even guided by advice. If this fails, sometimes you are told that it is time to take individual life paths. This is a difficult choice, but building a positive spiritual life requires commitment and wisdom.
Just as not all medicines are good for us all the time, people cannot be good for us all the time either. Take care to find out the difference and act responsibly for yourself and the other person.
