The childhood experience is not the only factors that can determine our fate. A child’s life does not begin at birth. Since we cannot see a baby before its birth (with the exception of ultrasound machines), this does not mean that it does not have connections with the outside world. Despite the fact that the unborn child lives in its own world, it is still most affected by everything that happens around it, especially the thoughts, feelings and actions of its parents. Studies have shown that the fetus can lead an active emotional life from the sixth month, if not earlier. He is able to feel and even see, hear, taste, experience and learn while in the womb. The feelings he experiences during his time in the womb of a mother depend heavily on how he treats messages that he receives mainly from his mother, but also from his father and the environment.
Bonding begins before birth
A pregnant mother who regularly worries about making mistakes or who suffers from other forms of emotional imbalance can leave a deep scar on the personality of the developing fetus. Similarly, a self-confident and confident mother inspires him with a deep sense of content and security. These or similar initial emotional imprints form a person’s relationships and expectations and can extremely create a personality that acts on them either as shyness, anxiety and aggression, or self-confidence, optimism and happiness. Contrary to a common understanding, but discovered by recent studies, the feelings of the father towards his wife and the unborn child play one of the most important roles in determining the success of pregnancy. There is strong evidence that a father who contacts his child while he is still in the womb can greatly affect his well-being. A newborn baby can recognize the voice of his father in the first or two hours after birth and react emotionally to him if the father talked to the baby during pregnancy. The soothing, familiar tone of his voice, for example, can stop a child from crying, indicating that he promises to protect and be safe.
It is well known that the dietary habits of the mother can influence the growing fetus. Cigarette smoking and drinking have proven to cause irreversible damage to a growing fetus. A series of precise experiments demonstrated that the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of parents (especially the mother) can even more influence the unborn child.
There are many assumptions about when the unborn child begins to recognize and respond to these external stimuli, but this seems secondary. More importantly, human life begins in the womb and is shaped by all its experiences during pregnancy (nine months in the womb). Studies have shown that the heartbeat of an unborn baby is accelerated every time his mother thinks about smoking a cigarette. Without lighting or collecting cigarettes, the mother’s thought caused an instant adrenaline response of the fetus in anticipation of the terrible lack of oxygen in his and his mother’s blood. This stress response made his heart beat faster. Mom's desire to smoke can also be associated with a sense of uncertainty, nervousness, and fear inside her. While she translates these emotions into the appropriate chemical compounds in her brain, the same emotional reactions also work for the fetus. This situation can always predispose an unborn child to deep-seated nervousness and anxiety later in life.
Rhythms of happiness
It has been shown that maternal anxiety emotions cause excessive fetal activity. The researchers were able to demonstrate that the most active fruits will someday be the most disturbing teenagers. They would become abnormally shy and protect themselves from teachers, from classmates, from friendship and from all human contacts. Most likely, young people will remain inhibited and shy even in the thirties and to old age, if they do not find a way to correct the initial emotional imbalance of the fetus.
The rhythms and tone of the mother’s voice also affect the unborn child. The fetus moves its body rhythm to harmonize with the unique rhythms of his mother's speech. He also responds to sounds and melodies from a source other than his mother. The agitated unborn children calm down when they listen to soothing music, such as Vivaldi. On the other hand, Beethoven makes them kick and move on, as sounds screaming to their parents do. Pregnant musicians even learned. their fruits are intricate musical works. From a certain age, children were able to play music by heart, without even hearing it before, except when they were in the mother’s womb. It was found that other children repeat the words or phrases that the mother used only during pregnancy. One child grew up in a foreign language that the mother used during pregnancy while working in a foreign country, but stopped using after birth.
Mother's heartbeat is one of the most powerful tools for keeping a growing fetus happy and attuned to the outside world. The steady rhythm of her heartbeat reassures him that everything is in order. He can “read” the emotional states of a mother through the changing rhythms of her heart. During the gestation period, the fetus feels a soothing heart of the heart as the main source of life, safety and love. The ethical meaning associated with heartbeat was confirmed by a study that used a human heartbeat recorded on a tape that was played in a nursery filled with newborns. To the amazement of the researchers, babies who were subjected to the sound of the heartbeat, ate more, weighed more, slept more, breathed better, sacrificed less and less pain than those who were deprived of the rhythmic sound of the heart. Of course, under natural conditions babies will never be separated from mothers after birth and therefore will continue to feel the heartbeat of their mother.
Death on the crib. this is a phenomenon that occurs almost only among infants who were arrested separately from mothers after birth (another important risk factor is cigarette smoke among infants). Such children feel abandoned by their mothers and are unable to sustain their vital functions without feeling or hearing her heartbeat. Most babies experience this dramatic measure of separation from the mother, but can be left with emotional scars, which manifest as low self-esteem, weakness and anxiety later in life. In contrast, babies who stay with their mother most of the time feel welcome and loved from the first minutes of life. They are much less likely to have a feeling of insecurity when they get older. Their characters will be friendly, confident, optimistic and extrovert.
Mixed messages
The fetus can greatly influence stressful events that occur in the mother’s life. As a result, the release of stress hormones can cause similar emotional reactions in the fetus, like those felt by the mother. However, if she feels unconditional love for her child and believes that nothing is more important to her as her growing child, then the child will feel safe and protected. In a large German study on 2,000 pregnant women, it was found that the children of mothers who were eagerly awaiting the birth of a child were much healthier, both mentally and physically, at birth and afterwards than those born to mothers who really did not want a child. Another study conducted at the University of Salzburg in Austria, brought results that are even more stunning. Psychological tests showed that mothers who wanted their unborn children consciously and unconsciously had the easiest pregnancy, the most uncomplicated births and the healthiest offspring physically and emotionally. The group of mothers who had a negative attitude towards their unborn children had the most serious medical complications during pregnancy and had the highest level of premature, low-powered and emotionally disturbed children.
Many pregnant women give mixed messages to their children. They often want to have a child, but do not want to give up their careers. These unborn children are often apathetic and lethargic after their birth. The relationship of a woman with her husband or partner is the second most important factor in determining infant income. A recent study, in which more than 1,300 children and their families participated, found that women who feel locked up in a stormy marriage have a 237 percent higher risk of having a child psychologically or physically abnormal. Children who feel loved in the womb have every reason to trust and love when they live in the outside world. They, as a rule, develop a deep connection with their parents and are little or not at all inclined to become affiliated or connected with problem individuals during their lifetime.
