It seems that almost any conversation about the nuts and chatter of the sexuality of lesbians almost always leads to some mention, albeit muffled, of the “Lesbian death bed”. A simple statement of this term is enough to make one and sexually active lesbian at the thought of it, and the term itself carries such negative images that it is not difficult to understand why.
If you guess the facts, there is no recognized medical diagnosis of “Lesbian death bed”. There is a recognized diagnosis of "sexual dysfunction of the female" and the symptoms allegedly attributed to LBD certainly relate to this diagnosis. However, female sexual dysfunction is not a lesbian oddity and actually affects about 4 out of 10 women in the United States according to Mayo Clinic website.
To understand how the loss of libido occurs in women, you must understand how the action of the opposition on libido occurs. When we first attract someone, our brains release dopamine and norepinephrine. The release of these two chemicals explains the joy, intense energy, insomnia, cravings, loss of appetite and focused attention that we feel during this period. With men, the release of these chemicals is much faster than women because of their visual nature when it comes to the opposite sex. The chemical roasting growing around our brain at this time is very close to that of obsessive-compulsive people. Now a terrible thought.
As the relationship with sex develops, oxytocin is released during orgasm. Oxytocin is responsible for creating emotional connections and healthy interpersonal relationships. Women release more oxytocin than men during sex, which may explain why they tend to significantly simplify communication at this stage of the relationship. Some researchers believe that this is why men can dump a woman after one night so easily, they take more time to form this emotional bond than women.
As relations develop, vasopressin is released and appears to be responsible for the long-term monogamous connections that so many people are waiting for. There are several studies that seem to imply that vasopressin and oxytocin interfere with the pathways of dopamine and norepinephrine, which explains why passionate love disappears after about 6 months to a year. Endorphins also stand out during sex. They provide a feeling of well-being, and in combination with oxytocin provide a strong sense of affection.
Other MRI studies conducted in 2006–7 by Dr. Lucy Brown, a professor at the Department of Neurology and Neurology at Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York and its colleges, showed that the caudate and ventral tegmental brain regions involved in craving (for example, for food) and dopamine secretion are illuminated in subjects that view photos of their loved ones. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that affects happiness and motivation. This causes a sensation, akin to high matter, and there is a growing amount of evidence that indicates that physical love is very close to depending on our body. Love involves increased secretion of b-phenylethylamine (PEA, or “chemistry of love”) during the first two to four years of the relationship.
It all boils down to the fact that our bodies function in such a way that encourages us to find a suitable helper and multiply. We are chemically forced to seek sexual relations and have sex as early as possible at an early stage; in our organism we hope to fulfill what, in his opinion, is the ultimate goal: the continuation of the species.
It is sad, but our bodies are chemically encouraged to reproduce, not necessarily to be happy. Despite the fact that we “want” are stable, compassionate, fulfilled, monogamous relationships, our bodies are not necessarily designed to give these emotional desires to us. The early parts of the relationship are supported chemically, later, repeat themselves.
Lesbian women are no different from heterosexual women and distinguish us as recipients of "death from the bed" - this is an attempt to mark the worst kind, in my opinion. The reality is that one of the biggest problems in heterosexual relationships is the loss of female libido, sometimes in lesbian relationships, which leads to less sex than heterosexual relationships, because lesbians are less likely to have sex just to reassure their partners . How many straight women do you know who have sex with their husbands to prevent the argument or because it was expected? How many straight men do you know, who would have sex with their partners, not caring about whether it really is at the moment?
Without a doubt, human love is more complex than the chemical signals that our bodies send us when we meet, have sex, fall in love and build lives together. But we begin and base all our interactions both in the early stages of relationships and later. So what can we do about it?
I believe that talking about loss of libido, affecting your life or causing stress, should be honestly discussed with your primary care physician. Talking with your Doctor may open new doors for you in your sex life. There are proven treatments for women who have lost libido, such as hormone therapy (including testosterone), but the first step is always to fix physical problems with your doctor.
No woman has a problem with sexual dysfunction with anyone, even with the Doctor. This can be especially difficult for lesbians. Fear of prejudice or ridicule may prevent a lesbian from discussing sexual problems with their Doctor, and this is unacceptable. If you are a doctor, do not accept your life and want to help you in the same way as heterosexual, then you need a new Doctor, not only to solve this problem, but to ensure that all your medical needs are handled with concern and respect.
If you ask me if I think LBD exists, I have to say no. I believe that the loss of libido for women who are in stable sexual relations, of any kind, exists and is experienced by a very large population of women in this country. This is not a lesbian problem, it's just a problem that seems to be suitable for women who are finally in a stable relationship, and their bodies are no longer reinforced by the desire to mate with a chemical cocktail that pushes us to have sex, but this does not mean the end of sexual intimacy and there is help for women who experience it in such a way that violates their lives and their relationships. You do not need to just take it as part of your life, talk to your doctor about it!
