Daria and Alvin's love story
Daria and Alvin met on the Internet at one of the sites where people exchange languages. It was March 2014, and at that time she lived in Harbin (North China), and he lived in Shanghai. They began to exchange letters and emails as friends. After a few months, they could not imagine life without each other's messages. In the summer of 2014, he convinced her to move to Shanghai. It was a very courageous decision for her to go alone to a huge city to a guy she never met in real life, but it was so right that she did not hesitate. She left work in Harbin, said goodbye to her friends and moved to Shanghai. Finally, the stars lined up for them when they met on August 28, 2014 in Shanghai.
3 years later, he proposed Mount Fuji, and flowering cherry trees. It was the most romantic place and the most romantic offer she could ever imagine. Over the past 3 years, they traveled a lot in Asia, took 2 cats and got married.
Questions to her
On our first date ...
in the evening we visited the Bund, then we went to one of the largest parks in the center of Shanghai and sat all night on the bench and talked until 4 in the morning.
In the first months of dating, my merchant will...
he pushed me to be close too soon, also, if he didn’t have any manners or turned out to be too boring.
I learned that he is right for me when ...
I knew him better, I knew how ambitious and responsible he was. Also, when I knew his views on life and plans that were similar to my own plans.
I had a culture shock when He ...
fell ill and refused to take the pills, and said that he just needed to drink more hot water!
Three things I love about Him are ...
1. I like that he is a very talented artist. 2. I like that he has an amazing sense of humor, and he makes me laugh all the time. 3. I like that he is a very open person, when we are alone, he never hides his true feelings and is honest with me.
The biggest misconception about his country and culture was ...
I used to think that China is not developed, but a poor country where people wear these triangular straw hats and growing rice. Chinese large cities, such as Shanghai or Guangzhou, seem to be even more developed than most European cities.
The most beautiful thing He ever did for me was ...
during my first week in shanghai. I lived in a hotel, and he came to my hotel early in the morning before his work to bring me breakfast. It was the most romantic thing I ever did for me.
During this relationship, the most important thing I learned about myself was ... the fact that I have to be more flexible. It doesn’t matter that everything is correct, and sometimes I have to just back off to avoid unnecessary arguments and other problems.
If there is advice that I could give to my kindred-western girlfriends who will be in the relationship of the AMWF, who will ...
that you should not look for a life partner based on his / her race. I think if someone wants to be with you just because you are white or Asian, this relationship will not last forever. First we must look at the person’s personality and soul. And if your soul mate was from a different culture, the most important thing is to remain open and embrace different cultures, no matter how unusual it may seem.
Questions to him
It was the first time to ask her ...
I was very nervous all evening, but I felt that she was my oldest friend. We kept talking all night.
I found out that it suits me when ...
There was not one particular time, except for those countless moments that filled me with how much I needed this man in my life. Such moments as she left a note about love in my wallet before my business trip ...
I had a culture shock when she ...
I often experience culture shock and this is why I am so attracted. It scares me how much she loves coffee and wine. Maybe this is not a cultural thing (we all know that coffee and red wine are not in Chinese culture), but I am more of a “hot water guy.” Drink more water, it is good for your health!
Three things I love about her are ...
1. Her compassion (she cries whenever we see a stray animal, and we helped save many kittens and puppies, including two of our own cats). 2. Her righteousness (you never want to cut the line in front of her!). 3. Her eyes!
The biggest misconception about her country and culture was ...
that the Russian people drink vodka. Vodka is a Russian thing, but not everyone is crazy about vodka in Russia ...
What she likes to do for pleasure with me is ...
traveling, watching movies, working out, reading and everything that couples do.
She hates when I ...
This is a very difficult question, because she is my biggest fan, she never hates what I do or say. No, I lied. Oh! She hates it when I'm lying. In addition, she is our little miss know-it-all, so she hates her when I give unnecessary advice.
During this relationship, the most important thing I learned about myself was ...
Growing up as a Chinese, I could never imagine that I was with a girl from another country. The Chinese family and education can be quite intensive, so it did not allow me to slow down and appreciate the present and progress. This is always the result (exams, rating in school and class). This is very different from the cultural background of my wife, where they grow up with friends and brothers and sisters, having fun and constantly going on field trips. There are very different environments and values.
What I learned from our relationship is to accept and respect these differences that we have. It took us some time to fully understand this, but now I'm starting to appreciate the difference in people and culture more. The fact is that we are all very different people, regardless of nationality or race, we will always be different. The moment people become aware of this, they can improve their relationships with anyone, including friends, family or colleagues, very valuable. This is how we create a connection, through our differences.
If there is any advice that I could give to my Asian friends who will be in an AMWF relationship, who will ...
respect her because she is a special person not only because she is a western person. If you love her because of her race, she will eventually disappoint you. Her racial background may be something special that attracts you at the beginning, but much more about a person than just about it. Before you get into a serious relationship, you must ask yourself if you see her as a woman, like no other, or if you put a “Western label” on her. If you are ready for option 1, then let's beat this stereotype together.
